"We encounter a general impression
of weariness and aging, of a Europe which is now a 'grandmother', no longer
fertile and vibrant." Pope Francis, Address to the European Parliament,Nov. 25, 2014
Today’s NY Times reported on the front
page that Pope Francis had suggested that a dog could get into Paradise. This
was considered newsworthy if not startling because Catholic doctrine has long
maintained that animals don’t have souls and therefore can’t go to heaven.
But the Pope’s sexist comparison of a
sclerotic Europe to grandmothers has gone without comment from The New
York Times, on the front page or anywhere else in the paper, which did report on his speech and quoted his sexist remark. Other media have similarly been silent to the extent that when I ask women I know what they thought of his comment, they have no idea he said it. How come? Is it because there's nothing new about the leader of the
Catholic Church being demonstrably sexist? Or is it because his insult
runs counter to the now-entrenched media narrative that this Pope is different
and liberal, even to the astonishing extent of suggesting that dogs might have
souls?
I was baptized a Roman Catholic and
attended Catholic elementary school. I might have gone into the religious life
had the church not been so biased against women. The Church lost me in 8th
grade when a priest came into my classroom and grandly announced that a
basketball team was being formed—for the boys. This was big news because in those days Catholic schools
didn’t even have recess when we could run around, much less a gym or any
organized sports.
But I’ve always loved sports, although
at 5’3” basketball has never been anything but a frustration. Nevertheless,
after the priest made his announcement, I stuck up my hand and asked whether
there would be a team for girls as well.
This gave the priest pause, and then he
said, “God has endowed boys with certain abilities that girls don’t have.” No,
no team for the girls because we were not physically able! I was repulsed and hurt. Even
though I had never at that time heard the word “sexist” I knew what it meant.
Of course, women’s subservient role in
the Church was already obvious to me from the obsequious attitude of our
teaching nuns to the priests, whose superficial homilies every Sunday—and yes, I
attended every week—made me squirm even then.
Now I am a grandmother and a feminist
who long ago realized that no woman in the world is secure while any woman
anywhere must wear a burqa, is prohibited from driving a car, forced into a
marriage she abhors, forced into sexual slavery, or kept from an
education. And this is only a partial
list of the ways in which women all over the world are deprived of a full life.
It seems to me that the plight of women should merit the attention of a Pope truly focused on relieving
suffering. But the Pope’s slur against Grandmothers shows that we should not
expect this Pope to do anything to relieve women’s pain.
To those who say, well, isn’t it true
that Grandmothers are no longer fertile? I say, yes, of course, and as a result
Grandmothers are available to care for their grown children and their
grandchildren. In fact, if it weren’t for Grandmothers, a vast number of
American mothers would not be able to hold a job since providing good quality,
affordable child care is still way down our lawmakers’ and corporate leaders’
lists of priorities.
Worse, the Pope blithely suggested that
Grandmothers are not “vibrant,” not alive and involved. Really? Consider 81-year old U.S. Senator Diane Feinstein, whose determination over a 5-year period forced into public view
this week the torture and horrors inflicted by the CIA on prisoners following
9/11. Feinstein, whose accomplishments over her life are nothing short of amazing, is also grandmother to two girls.
One of the few people to comment on the Pope's sexist insult was Joanna Moorhead in The Guardian, who noted that Pope Francis should know better, not only because of his own Grandmother, but also because
of his witnessing the campaign by Argentine Grandmothers of the “disappeared”
in that country.
Moorhead is apparently still a
practicing Catholic, unlike me (I’ve found a home in the Unitarian Universalist
faith.) She notes that older women are “the backbone” of the Church, the
majority at Masses, the worker bees who keep the parishes running, and suggests he insults them "at his peril." Perhaps, if they knew he had done so--which they don't--but even if they did, their loyalty and faith would probably motivate them to let it pass.
Moorhead concludes that Francis’s comment
shows he is no different from the male sexists who have been running the
Catholic Church for millennia.
I agree. And the lack of media
attention to his slur against Grandmothers shows that the media are still controlled by sexists. Women beware.